No more Mr nice guy
I’ve had it with women, be it romantic or platonic, you just cant trust them as far as you can throw them, and believe me I’ve thrown a few in my time. They are just as devious as men are, just more subtle about it. I know that is a sweeping statement and we shouldn’t tar everyone with the same brush, but at the moment I’m in the mood for some serious sweeping and if I could I would do some tarring with a brush the size of the titanic.
Selfish is another word that looms large at the moment, that and deceitful. I have had my share of let downs in the past as regards romantic episodes, but you just don’t expect it when the relationship is based on friendship. It hits all the harder when you have gone out of your way and bent over backwards for the transgressor.
For any men reading this drivel, hear my words, you wont ever get anywhere being Mr nice guy, I know, I have been that for most of my life more or less and its done balls all for me. In fact the only time I have ever got anywhere is when I haven’t been a nice guy. That’s certainly the case in business and the more I look back and reflect, the more I believe it to be true of human relationships.
I don’t like being angry about what probably is just an unimportant fault on somebody else’s part. But I am the kind of person that thinks very carefully about what kind of effect my actions could have on someone else’s life, and when that simple courtesy isn’t returned it cuts deep. Its bad enough when an acquaintance does this, but when a friend is guilty of it, then it cuts deep.
My Father always taught me to do the right thing no matter what the cost to myself, in that you can live and be happy with your actions, and if others are blind to your kindness and loyalty, then it will be they who lose. Well I tried it Dad, now I think its time to be a bastard.
Selfish is another word that looms large at the moment, that and deceitful. I have had my share of let downs in the past as regards romantic episodes, but you just don’t expect it when the relationship is based on friendship. It hits all the harder when you have gone out of your way and bent over backwards for the transgressor.
For any men reading this drivel, hear my words, you wont ever get anywhere being Mr nice guy, I know, I have been that for most of my life more or less and its done balls all for me. In fact the only time I have ever got anywhere is when I haven’t been a nice guy. That’s certainly the case in business and the more I look back and reflect, the more I believe it to be true of human relationships.
I don’t like being angry about what probably is just an unimportant fault on somebody else’s part. But I am the kind of person that thinks very carefully about what kind of effect my actions could have on someone else’s life, and when that simple courtesy isn’t returned it cuts deep. Its bad enough when an acquaintance does this, but when a friend is guilty of it, then it cuts deep.
My Father always taught me to do the right thing no matter what the cost to myself, in that you can live and be happy with your actions, and if others are blind to your kindness and loyalty, then it will be they who lose. Well I tried it Dad, now I think its time to be a bastard.
Labels: bastard, nice guy, relationships
2 Comments:
Oh Dave - don't!
Be a bastard that is.
You didn't even give us a clue about what happened and I'm very curious.
But don't give up on Mr Nice guy. I know it's all granite underneath any way.
Rise above it.
Kaz
Its a complicated issue Dear lady, suffice it to say that its all about sex, basicly she wants to, I don't, why ruin a plutonic relationship that seemed to be running along nicely? of course there is more to it than just that, its what she did because I wanted to keep it celibate.
Now your even more curious, he he.
By the way this is me being a bastard.
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